Being Uncomfortable

My comfort zone is all warm and red. There are velvety couches with colorful pillows, plush rugs that make your toes sigh in pleasure. Sometimes Vivaldi plays softly in the background, sometimes Jay-Z wants you to brush the dirt off your shoulder. In here, everything goes exactly the way I want it to. There are no surprises, and everything ends perfectly.

Which means sometimes things get dull.

You get that I'm talking about my psychological comfort zone, right? I don't really have a room that's all red and cozy. But my mental comfort zone is as strong as any physical comfort zone I've ever had, and lately I feel like it's more a bad thing than good.

"How, Kate?" you ask. "It seems like such a lovely place."

It is. I love it there. But it's keeping me from trying new things and growing in different directions. For instance, I've been looking for an apartment the past couple weeks, and I was thinking of moving back into my old neighborhood. It felt so familiar...

And so wrong. 

So I found an apartment in a new neighborhood. Do I feel trepidations? Hell yeah. I don't know the neighborhood well—I don't have places to hang out. I don't know where to get the best Chinese takeout or which market has the best vegetables. But it's exciting at the same time, because I have the opportunity to try new things and find new favorites.

I'm at the same stage in my writing too. I do what I do well, but maybe it's time to step out and try something a little different. To challenge myself. To try an unknown. 

I know, I know—it's scary stepping out. Things are foreign, and good outcomes aren't guaranteed. Only how do you know that what's waiting isn't a hundred times better than what you have? So while it's unknown, the hope of great things exists.

What does your comfort zone look like? What do you wear when you're there? What keeps you coming back, and how is it inhibiting you from growing? What new, scary territory would you want to explore if you stepped out of your comfort zone?

Posted by Kate on 12 October 2010

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  • 1. Floor to ceiling bookshelves, filled with books. Plush sofas you can sink into. Sometimes Jodeci tells you to come and talk to me. And sometimes Depeche just wants to enjoy the silence.
    2. Either PJs and a blanket or jeans and a tank top.
    3. Familiarity and peace.
    4. hm. i don't know off the top of my head. i don't know if it inhibits me or if it gives me the opportunity to go out and experience new things because i know that i'll always have this if anything else doesn't work out.
    5. skydiving! um. morroco (scary because i could be kidnapped and sold into slavery). and lots of other things.

    Posted by Parisa, 12/10/2010 3:25am (2 years ago)

  • 1. Ultimate comfort zone has lots of soft blues and whites - Very light and floaty. Big cushy armchair that is just right for sitting sideways, legs draped over one arm, book in hand. Conveniently-placed table holds a cup of tea or a snack. A set of perpetually-comfortable headphones (boy, that'd be nice) sometimes pumps the angst of Evanescence into your brain, and other times it's the grand joy of a Disney instrumental. Outside of the range of that chair, I don't even know what the comfort zone looks like. Just somewhere where I can obtain more books, tea, and snacks.
    2. PJ pants or really comfy jeans. and a warm cuddly sweater.
    3. Safety. And a love of books.
    4. It keeps me shut inside instead of going out and trying new things - Something which I actually want to do.
    5. Downtown at night, would be a starter (NOT alone). I'm not big on clubs, simply because the music is too loud and I can't dance without choreography, but I'm getting sick and tired of spending perfectly good evenings at home. I want to do something way out of my comfort zone.

    Posted by Karen, 12/10/2010 7:54am (2 years ago)

  • Interesting questions to ponder. I'll have to think about the other questions, but I definitely want to go to Yellowstone. I was hoping to do it this year with my friend, but she went and ended up in a coma last fall from the swine flu and wasn't up to it. The lengths some people will go to stay in their comfort zone....

    Posted by JB Lynn, 12/10/2010 9:47am (2 years ago)

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